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Is that YOUR fear or did someone put it in your space?

Is that YOUR fear or did someone put it in your space?

Is that YOUR fear or did someone place fear in your space?

 

Fear has been a hot topic in my life this week, but not because I’m feeling particularly afraid of anything. I didn’t see snakes (which scare the crap out of me) and I didn’t repel down a skyscraper (which ALSO scares the crap out of me!) 

 

Instead, I began to take a big internal step towards a new creative project and fear crept in. I’m not new to “new creations” or to changes for that matter. I’ve changed so much in the last 10 years that those who know me best likely have whiplash!

 

But nonetheless, FEAR came in hot and fast like a F-100 Super Sabre (that’s FAST, yo!)

 

However I was aware of one thing…this wasn’t MY fear.

But, whose fear was it?

 

Have you ever made a BIG decision that you KNEW, without a doubt, was the “right” decision for you? Like it hit you, took over your body and sparkled brighter than all the other decisions? It felt so right that your body vibrated in response?

 

You’re human, so I’m sure you’ve felt this before!

It likely isn’t everyday (although that would be AWESOME), but you’ve felt it and you remember it. 

 

AND THEN YOU RIDE OFF INTO THE SUNSET ON A UNICORN…

 

Well, probably not. 

 

What’s more likely, is that you made the decision, but before you had a chance to act or speak on it, a wave of doubt came in (p.s. “doubt” is just another form of fear…)

 

Where did that come from? You were just vibrating so high! You just saw sparkles! WTF?

 

The thing about being human is that it’s easy to “match” to the energy of the people around you (whether you know these people or not). It’s like walking into a family gathering that no one wants to attend. You might be excited about the restaurant or the food, but the energy of suckiness hits you hard the minute you sit down and then before you know it, you’re emitting the same sucky vibes you just walked into.

More wine anyone??

 

The interwebs makes it especially easy to do this. For example: 

 

  • Log into Instagram, match to the emotions of those in your feed (likely a desire to be externally validated for the places they go or the people they know…) 

 

  • Log into Facebook, match to the ideas of those in that political thread you commented on (even though you PROMISED yourself you would QUIT partaking in the discussion of politics on social media…)

 

I think you catch my drift.

So how does this impact you?

 

Well, whether you’ve registered it or not… you’ve gotten energetically walloped for taking pretty awesome steps that actually ARE in the best interest of your soul.

 

Imagine: You’re at a split in the road with a map in your hand. The map is clearly defined, you are to take the path on the right…it will definitely get you closer to where you want to go and the experiences you want to have. Confidently, you go to take a step in that direction and you are excited.

 

BUT, before you can take your first step, you hear a voice that tells you that you’re making the WRONG CHOICE. The path on the left is DEFINITELY the “correct” path for you.

You don’t know where this voice came from.

There is no one within 100 miles and you and only you have this map! 

 

But it’s too late. Doubt creeps in.

 

Yes…you have a map and you were soooo excited, but then you heard the voice.

Now you aren’t sure what to do.

Now you start to second guess yourself and all of a sudden this simple step forward becomes troublesome…maybe even painful! How did this happen (and SO FAST nonetheless??)

 

You freeze in FEAR. Fear of making the “wrong” decision. So you stay put. It’s uncomfortable, but it seems easier. If you don’t go to the left or to the right, then you can’t be “wrong”, right?

 

This is the state that I see many people in when they come in for psychic readings (duh…that’s why even though they felt “Crazy”, they signed up for a freakin psychic reading!) They are downright STUCK in the energy of fear. Craziest part…it’s not their own fear. It’s the fear of others that holds them back. Ick! 

 

How is this possible? Why would people do this?

 

Well, they “do” this because they want YOU match to THEM. They aren’t ready for you to take the path on the right because that path might take you towards change and change can be scary.

This path might take you further from them in spirit (even if your still close to them in body).

Plus, it’s more comfortable to hang out with others who are matched to us. It’s like going to a football party with fans of the same team (WAY more comfortable than sharing a living room with your competitors). 

 

Please note that 95% of the time (made up number), people do NOT know that they’re doing this. They’re super unaware that they are throwing shade your way!

So before you get mad, cut them some slack.

 

I know, it’s weird to wrap your head around (unless it isn’t…), but this is a REAL thing. The cool thing about being aware of it, is that you can move through the energy. You don’t have to remain stuck in fear. 

 

So what are your next steps?

 

The first and most important step is “awareness”. Being aware that the “voices” and “doubts” are likely not yours, is pretty darn helpful. 

How do you become aware?

That’s different for everyone. I find my answers in meditation while others might find their’s while hiking or cooking. If I’m really stuck, I’ll have one of my psychic friends take a look at the energy for me.

There is no “one size fits all” solution to figuring out if the fear is yours or someone else’s, but being AWARE that it might not be yours, will help you to take a DEEPER look at this fear. Too many people turn their backs on new adventures in life (adventure that their soul REALLY wants to take) because of fear…and it’s painful to watch.

 

We live in a world that puts a lot of weight on “intuition”, but very little weight on how quickly and easily others can infiltrate our intuition. 

 

For instance, I was a totally unconscious psychic most of my life. This was annoying because I felt like I could only trust my intuition “sometimes”. After all, sometimes it was right and other times it wasn’t. What I didn’t SEE then, that I SEE now, is that others have the ability to put their voices and “pictures” in my space. It’s like this whole time they had the power to dirty my camera lens and I kept wondering why my pictures were turning out so wacky!

 

A LOT of people spend their entire life living out the expectations of others (usually family) because they have no ability to decipher where their family ends and they begin).

So let fear be your guiding light. 

 

When fear crops up, pull it apart. Look at it. Read it. What does your gut say? Is it yours? Take no prisoners! Your TRUTH does not vibrate at fear (and don’t you forget it). 

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